Dear Police Officer of Devon & Cornwall Police

Dear Police officer of Devon & Cornwall Constabulary, 
This afternoon one of my best friends attended an appointment with you.
She’s been one of my best friends for eighteen years...
She’s the most honest, loyal girl you could meet...when she entered my life all those years ago we were party-hard teenagers she was the life and soul of any occasion, but she was sensible...she didn’t ever take any of the drugs the rest of us did, she didn’t date the Dickhead men we did and she didn’t get into debt like we did...she remained single, worked hard. She paid her bills and got a career.
Then she met the man of her dreams and got her happy ever after...
Only the man of her dreams was a domestic abuser who racked up thousands of pounds of debt in her name. She was no longer the life and soul of every party because she wasn’t allowed to parties, or see her friends, or family, she became isolated. She forgot how to laugh and joke, she became a nervous wreck. Since they’ve separated she has her friends back, and we’re helping her find herself again but she still can’t think for herself and the change in her has broken the hearts of all of us. 
Today she came to see you because I’ve spent weeks begging her to...
Because after she left him the abuse has got worse. She now lives in constant fear.
I told her you’d protect her, I promised her that you would help her see that what she’s been subject to is domestic abuse because he’s done his job so well that right now she doesn’t even see it. 
So today she arrived for her appointment and was greeted by you.
She bought along four voice recordings she had secretly taken. You refused to listen to them despite her asking you to three times.
Those voice recordings are devastating to hear.
The most recent one taken only this week he abuses her in front of her child. When I heard it I sobbed, I sobbed so hard she sobbed with me, because in that recording you can hear the desperation in her throat where she struggles to speak, you can hear the venom he spits whilst he’s threatening her and you can hear their child screaming and crying in fear.
You refused to listen. 
She disclosed emotional and sexual abuse to you.
You told her there was no evidence.
You refused to listen to her voice recordings and didn’t ask to look at her texts.
You told her you could pay him a visit and ‘have a word’ but usually ‘this worsens things’ and advised her just to ‘speed up’ the family court process she’s currently going through. 
As she was leaving the station you handed her paperwork to sign along with the words “Sorry there is so much for you to fill out for an incident so small”.
You then told her that unfortunately because he’s not beating her or damaging things it isn’t really Domestic abuse. 
Maybe she wasn’t forceful enough with you, maybe because she agreed with all you said you thought that was ok...but you see her brain is now trained to think she’s always wrong, so she would have agreed with anything you said...and she would never be forceful now because she’s learned to keep her mouth shut and not have an opinion. It’s what people subjected to Domestic abuse do to stay safe.
And that ‘small incident’ you referred to, well that ‘small incident’ has ruined her entire life.
And the fact she isn’t beaten or getting her house smashed up daily doesn’t mean she’s not subject to Domestic abuse. She is one of the worst cases I’ve dealt with because her abuser is absolutely amazing at what he does. 
In the past month I have got four women and their babies out of their homes into the safety of a refuge. Not one of them is as run down as this girl. Not one of those women who have had to flee their home is as desperate or frightened or at breaking point like my friend is right now. 
When my Warriors contact me I urge them to call the police, because it’s what you’re there for. When they tell me you won’t help them I promise them you will. 
You are there to help & protect men & women & children subjected to Domestic violence - be it emotional, physical or sexual...
....and today you failed, in the worst way you possibly could have. 
And I am absolutely devastated at your actions. 
What a way to celebrate #WhiteRibbonDay 💔

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